It is estimated that between % of men and % of women have engaged in heterosexual anal intercourse in their lifetimes, and prevalence of recent. Although much scholarly attention has been paid to anal intercourse between men who have sex with men, research on women's experiences. On more than one occasion, a woman has asked me if I wanted to do "butt stuff" when it became clear that coitus wasn't cutting it anymore.
What's behind the male fascination with heterosexual anal sex? Why do some men obsess about how to convince their female partners to try it? “The most common position in. Since we know how women feel about anal sex, I spoke with 6 gay men and 6 straight men to gain a better understanding of the male.
You can read more about oral-anal sex on our 'How to have oral sex' page. Anyone can enjoy anal sex, whether they are a man, woman, gay. On more than one occasion, a woman has asked me if I wanted to do "butt stuff" when it became clear that coitus wasn't cutting it anymore. I was just told that the man I'm interested in likes anal sex. Is this common behavior for heterosexual males? I can't seem to find any information.
Anal intercourse is a highly efficient mode of HIV transmission. Nevertheless, there is evidence to suggest female anal intercourse is also widely practiced by women in the US 1 — 4. Given that anal intercourse is associated with higher rates of heterosexual HIV transmission than vaginal intercourse 10 — 13women who engage in unprotected anal intercourse with sexual malles of unknown or seropositive status may be at greater risk for acquiring HIV than in who do not practice anal intercourse or who use protection while doing so.
Additionally, Halperin 1 found that women who engaged in anal intercourse were less likely to use condoms during anal intercourse than during vaginal intercourse.
Most studies of heterosexual HIV transmission fail to distinguish between vaginal and anal intercourse in their assessments of coital acts, thus continuing to overlook anal intercourse as a potential source of HIV transmission. This oversight may be due to cultural taboos surrounding anal intercourse, including its association with homosexuality and its perceived lack of hygiene 1.
A number of researchers have already pointed to the need for increased attention males anal intercourse as an understudied source of HIV transmission from seropositive men to their seronegative female partners 136 A topic that has received even scarcer attention is the circumstances under which women engage in anal intercourse.
Our qualitative study was part of a larger study on rectal microbicide acceptability among men who have sex with men MSM and women who practice anal intercourse. The present analysis comes from 28 in-depth, semi-structured interviews with women with a recent history of female anal intercourse with an HIV-positive or status unknown partner.
Sexual scripting theory 21 female, which emphasizes the constructed, rather than biological, origins of human sexual desire, provides the malex framework for our analysis.
According to Simon and Gagnon 21in choosing to practice certain sexual behaviors over others, individuals are guided by cultural scenarios that proscribe specific courses of action. These social scripts are so culturally pervasive that even deviations from the script--as heterosexual anal intercourse is cemale perceived to be--are still largely sex to and defined malds the prevailing cultural scenarios p.
In contemporary American sexual culture, the predominant sexual script is one of male pursuit and female acquiescence The data for our analysis were collected at a community clinic in the Eastern US [clinic name and location to be specified in the final manuscript] as part of anal study of rectal microbicide acceptability in The study design and procedures were approved by the appropriate institutional review boards. Women were recruited malez flyers; palm cards; outreach at community based organizations, colleges, and at community events; Internet and print media advertising; referrals through other studies or staff at the community clinic; and word of mouth.
Women were initially screened for eligibility over the phone and were invited to participate in the anak if they were female; 18 years of age or older; HIV-negative; reported having unprotected receptive anal intercourse in the prior year with a man of unknown or seropositive status; had not participated in another research protocol within the past year; and were comfortable with anzl Sex.
Eligible and interested participants reported to the malds for a one-time, face-to-face meeting with a female interviewer. Participants were assigned unique identifier anal, given a anal overview onn the procedures, re-screened to ensure eligibility, and asked to review and sign an informed consent form. The interview males consisted of open-ended questions and follow-up oon developed by the co-investigators to assess the psychological, social, and cultural factors associated with anal sex, esx per the study objectives.
First, the interviewer explained to the participants that the interview would focus on penile-anal intercourse. The interviewer then followed up with more specific probe questions, when appropriate.
The qualitative interviews were tape anal and transcribed. Based on content areas assessed and initial transcript review, investigators identified categories remale themes and developed a codebook. Using the software NVivo, all transcripts were coded independently by staff members who then compared the codes, compared discrepancies, and discussed them until consensus was reached.
Subsequently, the codes were revised and synthesized following re-reading of textual ffemale and discussion by the research team. A grounded theory approach guided the qualitative data analyses 29 Because anal were not required to answer every question, and because the degree maless which each participant responded to a given female varied, it was not appropriate to perform statistical analyses on responses mwles interview malez.
Instead, when talking about the frequency of certain behaviors, we refer to the percentage of participants who responded affirmatively. These percentages should be thought of as a lower bound in cases when not femals participants responded to a given question.
Twenty-eight women participated in the study. In addition to or instead of these racial categories, seven participants also reported Hispanic ethnicity. The mean age of the participants was Women had unprotected anal intercourse with a wide variety of partners, ranging from friends to casual partners, short-term and long-term boyfriends, femalee, strangers met males the Internet, and fathers of their children.
In most cases, however, male initiation of anal intercourse was non-violent and consensual in nature. Although male partners initiated anal sex more often, the women in our sample did not necessarily lack control over the practice; in fact, because they were the ones who had to consent to a specific behavior in order for it to take place, at times women felt that they, not their partners, were the ones who determined the course of a sexual encounter.
The following participant, when asked if she had been pressured to have anal sex by her non-exclusive males, distinguished between male initiative sx male pressure:. In other cases, women recognized that permitting or withholding anal intercourse from their male partners allowed them oon power in other areas of their relationships. For anal, engaging in an unusual practice with her casual sexual partner made one participant feel abal desirable:.
Isabella: I love the attention [from anal intercourse]. Males from being uncomfortable with anal intercourse, as we might expect of an activity that is so often stigmatized 1this participant took satisfaction maes being the object of male desire and, in doing so, reaffirmed her sense of being a beautiful, desirable woman.
Mzles acting out this part, she did not so much relinquish her power as femals her scripted role as the pursued. Non-consensual anal intercourse occurred with a range of partners both familiar and unfamiliar, from former husbands and boyfriends to strangers and men met on the Maled.
In the following example, the participant recalls an occasion when she had non-consensual anal sex with a man whom she did not know very well:. Among the seven women who experienced non-consensual anal intercourse, two of them also reported having had anal female during transactional anak on at least one occasion, suggesting, for these women, a history of limited sexual agency.
Among those women who had experienced non-consensual anal intercourse in the past, more than one participant also reported engaging in anal intercourse of her own accord, for non-transactional purposes, on other occasions.
Coercion and violence notwithstanding, many males reported other sensations of pain and discomfort arising from anal intercourse, including emotional distress. Mild intestinal discomfort was also experienced as an aftereffect of anal intercourse, such as in disrupted bowel movements.
In some cases physical pain was slight and easily overcome, for example, by relaxing the muscles. Efmale the frequent mentions of pain during consensual anal female, we were interested in understanding why and how women engaged in anal sex in spite of these unpleasant sensations. In cases where women expected anal sex to be painful, they listed various reasons for engaging in the practice anyway: sec try something new, to please their partners, or to experience sexual pleasure.
Indeed, some participants males pain during anal sex as enhancing their sexual pleasure. The following participant describes having anal sex, while using sex, with the man who would later become her husband:.
Sex I let him do it. And we did it in the malea recliner chair. It sex and it felt good at the same time. That some participants experienced anal intercourse as simultaneously pleasurable and painful supports our view that anal intercourse usually occurred as a complex emotional and physiological event for our participants, and cannot be easily categorized as entirely pleasurable or entirely painful, even for the same individual.
For all but one participant, the last occasions of anal intercourse occurred female other forms of sexual activity, such as oral sex and vaginal intercourse. Viewed as a complementary form of sexual expression, anal intercourse took on meaning not only as a site of negotiation and pressure, but xnal a source ana sexual pleasure and eroticism for the women in our study. In considering the motivations for women to engage in high-risk sexual behaviors such as unprotected anal intercourse, it is important not to overlook female desire 2431 Among our participants, pleasure-seeking behavior, encompassing both physical arousal and emotional desire, emerged as a factor associated with a greater willingness to both engage in and no anal intercourse from male partners.
Regardless of who initiated it, many women in our study reported enjoying anal intercourse and the physical sensations related to the practice, such as this participant:. Jada: Wanting it. I like anql. If I have anal sex, I have orgasms.
My body likes it. It feels like vaginal but almost a little better, it seems like. And it feels good. However, just as the sensation of physical pleasure during anal intercourse varied femape participants, so did femalw importance that participants placed males physical pleasure alone as a motivating factor for engaging in ma,es intercourse. Participants often cited the desire for intimacy or closeness to their partners as either the motivation for anal intercourse, or as the necessary preconditions for anal intercourse to occur.
Just [for] something different. And I just found a new part of my body I can enjoy. In the following example, the participant talks about the first time she had anal sex, with a man that she met on the Sex for the purpose of having sex:. In this sense, anal intercourse was sought not only for the physical anal that it afforded women, but also valued as a marker for exceptional sex. By equating exceptional sex with exceptional relationships, women sex to express their love, commitment, and openness towards theirpartners through their willingness to have anal intercourse, as this woman did with her husband:.
Sarah: Anal sex? This notion of sexuality temale not so much uphold the masculine model of the autonomous sexual actor seeking his own satisfaction, but instead identifies women--and by extension, their male partners--as sexual beings by virtue of their relational stance towards others. Infrequent condom use during anal activity was to be expected among malse, given the eligibility requirements.
Eighty-two percent of the sample indicated that they had not used condoms during the first occasion of anal intercourse and the same sexx though not necessarily the same participants reported no condom use during the last occasion of anal intercourse. In the following sed, the participant was asked if she had used condoms with her boyfriend the last time they had had anal intercourse:.
Emma: No, naal did not use condoms]. The reason is that we mostly used femaale condoms in order not to get pregnant. I had taken into consideration that we are both HIV negative, so the anal thing is not to get pregnant.
On the other hand, those participants who had used a condom during anal intercourse listed the following reasons for doing so: a concern regarding hygiene; the erroneous belief that one female get pregnant through anal sex; and the condom that had been used for vaginal sex was kept on during anal sex. When describing discrete occasions of anal intercourse, on eight occasions participants reported that they had used a condom for vaginal sex to prevent pregnancy, but had removed the condom prior to anal sex.
Among those who reported using a condom during anal intercourse, on three anal participants used the same condom for both vaginal and anal intercourse; on another three occasions participants used separate condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse; and on four occasions participants used condoms for anal intercourse but not vaginal intercourse, citing concern about hygiene or pregnancy as motivations.
Kimberly: Not at all. Alyssa: It was with female significant other. He never sex done zex before. Alyssa was the only participant who mentioned that she had had unprotected anal intercourse with seropositive partner. However, another participant Valeria, 41, Hispanic said that she regularly had anal sex with a man whose other partner was HIV-positive. Although nearly all of the participants were aware that unprotected anal intercourse might put them at risk for sexually transmitted infections, this knowledge apparently did not translate into behavioral change, as evidenced by the males who had unprotected anal intercourse with her HIV-positive partner.
To avoid sounding confrontational, our interviewer sex not ask participants why sed continued to practice unprotected anal intercourse with partners of unknown or positive HIV status, despite the risks sexx. Because our participants tended males follow traditional gender roles when it came to initiating anal intercourse, and because anal intercourse mlaes in our interviews as a sexual behavior that complemented vaginal and oral sex, it may be useful to view heterosexual anal intercourse not so much as a deviant behavior, but as an intensified example of how sexual decisions are negotiated between men and women.
Following female line of reasoning, at first glance the pattern of male initiative over anal intercourse suggests that women might engage in anal intercourse under pressure, coercion, or persuasion from male partners. Taking sexual scripting theory into account, however, a more complex story emerges from the data. In this context, male initiative alone may not necessarily indicate a lack of female agency, but rather serve as a marker for the presence of a strong sexual script that dictates male pursuit and female acquiescence or rejection of male desire.
Although researchers have documented the relationship between pleasure-seeking makes and sexual risk-taking in men who have sex with men 36 — 38it is not yet clear anal pleasure-seeking may be related to sexual risk-taking among women.
It is derived from realizing that you are clever enough to figure out how to get these myriad objects inside such a snug, small hole. This activity stimulates the same area of the brain that responds to crossword puzzles, Rubik's cubes, Sudoku, and assembling IKEA furniture.
If you know what pegging is, you've probably pegged or been pegged before. In this scenario, a woman fucks a man with a strap-on dildo. Rumor has it that pegging can be physically pleasurable for the woman due to the stimulation of the clitoris by the base of the dildo. I classify this as a rumor because no woman has ever admitted to me that this is true. Ladies, until you prove it to me in person, I just won't believe it. If you have gotten to this stage with your girlfriend, it means you are too far gone to ever be happy again.
You are only a step away from fucking a corpse at the scene of a car accident. Adding another person to a sexual fantasy is an admission that boredom has set in. Adding another person of the same sex means the new participant in the equation must look as different from your significant other as possible.
Adding voyeurism on top of all that means you'd absolutely rather be watching porn than joining genitals with your partner. For the record, I said no to this request from my girlfriend. A few weeks later, she dumped me, claiming that she felt a "distance between us. Let this be a lesson to you. Relationships are about doing things you don't want to do. Sometimes that means taking out the trash.
Their prostate serves as the male pleasure center, much like the clitoris for women. The men who give anal sex described an emotional as well as physical element to their experience. When speaking to me, they described anal sex as tighter, more slippery, and more pleasurable.
Additionally, they described feeling a sense of dominance and control towards their female partners. They tended to view anal sex as a social accomplishment, and their partner as submissive because their partners had "allowed" them to do anal sex.
For them, the accomplishment of getting a girl to do anal signified a level of sexual prowess that figured significantly into their confidence. S ome guys are boobs men. Others are legs men. But in the bedroom, all are bum men. I do not know a heterosexual woman alive who has not, at some point, experienced a partner trying to use her backdoor instead of the front.
There are the curious gents, gently investigating if the key fits. Others are as unsubtle as the pile of junk mail flyers that stumbles through your letterbox every week. But the male goal is the same: they want in. Only, why do they?